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Mindspacearena is a self improvement, self help blog. It aims to provide useful information for personal development, to help people live up to their highest potential.Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.comBlogger152125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-85041997879189060342021-01-07T11:08:00.000+05:302021-01-07T11:08:05.142+05:30Peace in the storm<p style="text-align: justify;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZcoUXC2hZCLmeOdr_hyphenhyphenzs49svVszrY-AfEEoE8M_7y3tBvi9HVjAsCC309lPmAgyYe7ibdpg32r3vjjw-gebJ92BfPeNTlhVbVAB77XRYlp2Dx0KAg-JV-HF4r-54vE1TOk1PXnJKc8To/s2048/lightrays+and+shadows.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1496" data-original-width="2048" height="293" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhZcoUXC2hZCLmeOdr_hyphenhyphenzs49svVszrY-AfEEoE8M_7y3tBvi9HVjAsCC309lPmAgyYe7ibdpg32r3vjjw-gebJ92BfPeNTlhVbVAB77XRYlp2Dx0KAg-JV-HF4r-54vE1TOk1PXnJKc8To/w400-h293/lightrays+and+shadows.jpg" title="Peace In The Storm" width="400" /></a></div><br /></div><br /><span style="color: #990000;"><br /></span><p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Peace is such a beautiful state of mind, well I would call it an attitude
worth cultivating. Life has its moments (sometimes long-drawn-out
moments) of chaos and peace. Amidst the long periods of chaos as it was
in 2020 it is important to find inner peace. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Peace allows you to continue with life as if nothing ever happened. Although the whole world around you seems to be ruffled, disturbed, and chaotic
nothing really bothers you and you continue doing your own thing. Nothing
really brings your life to a standstill or pauses it.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">A ‘peace that surpasses all understanding’ as Jesus he Anointed One would
say, is the kind of peace I am talking about. The world just doesn't really
understand why you would be at peace when they are so troubled. However, you
know that you have earned this peace by working for it. This kind of peace doesn’t
come overnight, it is cultivated over a lifetime.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Sometimes it startles me that I just go on calmly as if nothing bothers me
and at times, I am flustered by something as light as a feather although it is a momentary
blur. A calm mind is a sound mind that has control over emotions and is able to
think through, process, and make the right decisions in the storm.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">A calm mind is one that remains happy, content, and productive come what
may. In fact, it isn't just productive, it is creatively looking for solutions
and ways to work around problems. A calm mind focuses on solutions rather than
on problems. When the shift happens, peace is restored to what would have been
a disturbed mind.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Learning to take charge of your emotions helps you take control of your
life. It helps you keep moving in the right direction. It stops negativity in
its track. It helps the mind focus on what can be done rather than on what is
out of our control.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Most people seem to be thunderstruck
when things around them become chaotic and totally out of control. For some, this
could become a major distraction, that they immobilized by the impact of situations
that are out of their control rather than focus on what can be done.<o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">Understanding that you are in control of your life no matter what the
situation outside looks like, gives you a purpose and a direction in life. It
gives you the strength to carry on through the worst possible scenario. Your
life becomes one cohesive stream rather than bits and pieces of unplanned
happenings. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">It is true, you cannot plan or foresee all situations, but you can plan to
take control of yourself and your emotions in all situations. Learning to focus
in the right direction will get you there. Look for solutions to your
problems within before you run from pillar to post for answers. <o:p></o:p></span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">You have the required wisdom within if you take the time to look and respect
what is within you. Believe in yourself. Believe in your creativity, believe
that you have what it takes to make your life beautiful!<o:p></o:p></span></p><p>
</p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="color: #990000;">You can create your own inner peace which can only go from strength to
strength. </span><o:p></o:p></p><p><br /></p><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-11970718759513717782020-12-06T20:36:00.001+05:302020-12-06T20:37:17.821+05:30When self-Improvement Becomes A Hinderance<p style="text-align: justify;"></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzCBseZ2j6Zb0BSz0v5j3brhU7ALsDrjfx8dz5n2cQ4EsHX1UYkveUGBazyfOKWf4MJVtQAh0TWJIzZMGiU_sug8M19Qk0yx1aSCrngvrbu8u7JxJN30FgNzlA8rTo0Dqaj1vpmvIGhIpy/s700/self+improvement.gif" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="400" data-original-width="700" height="247" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgzCBseZ2j6Zb0BSz0v5j3brhU7ALsDrjfx8dz5n2cQ4EsHX1UYkveUGBazyfOKWf4MJVtQAh0TWJIzZMGiU_sug8M19Qk0yx1aSCrngvrbu8u7JxJN30FgNzlA8rTo0Dqaj1vpmvIGhIpy/w431-h247/self+improvement.gif" width="431" /></a></div><br /><span style="font-family: helvetica;"><br /></span><p></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">I am not one of those people who needs to create a controversy to get attention. Personally speaking, I hate getting too much attention. However, there are those articles that I have been reading on the internet which require me to speak up. </span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">We are all flawed, no one is perfect. I guess there would be no one on the face of this Earth who in his/her right senses would deny this. This being said, it automatically means that there is scope for self-improvement. </span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">Self-improvement becomes a hindrance only when we expect miracles to happen instantly. We tend to forget that it took us years to acquire and </span><span style="font-family: helvetica;">perfect </span><span style="font-family: helvetica;">those habits we are currently trying to change. However, we expect things to change happen overnight.</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">Besides, we expect perfection instead of improvement, wherein lies the biggest problem of all. As I often say, this is self-improvement, not self-perfection, we need to accept that we will never be perfect and always remain flawed to a certain degree. This acceptance will help reduce the expectation we have to a realistic level.</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">Self- improvement is also a lonely journey. It's you with yourself, a long drawn journey and it is easy to give up. Not many are comfortable with themselves.</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">It is also a place where the fire is turned on you, by you, so it could become very uncomfortable at times. </span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">The journey of self-discovery and self-improvement is never smooth or easy. It needs total commitment and continuous action. </span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">Therefore, when I read about how self-improvement is a farce and a failure it makes me want to laugh, it is a farce to those who give up easily or are not totally committed to the journey.</span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">It is hard for those who aren't ready to face hardships, perhaps not everyone is fit for the self-improvement journey. </span></p><p style="text-align: justify;"><span style="font-family: helvetica;">The journey of self-discovery and self-improvement is what has brought stability peace and happiness into my life. I can vouch for it!!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: helvetica;"><br /></span></p><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-20309099340656809782020-04-21T11:23:00.002+05:302020-04-21T11:23:52.249+05:30When will life to return to normal I constantly hear people mourn and whine as they wait for life to return to normal amid the Covid 19 pandemic. What is normal? The dictionary tells me it means - usual, standard, common, ordinary, everyday, accustomed, expected etc.<br />
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<b>Will life return to pre-pandemic conditions? </b><br />
It might, I am not so sure. Even if it does it is going to take a long time, by then the new normal would have established itself.<br />
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<b>What is the new normal? </b><br />
The new normal is what you have been doing in the days of lock downs and Covid 19 restrictions. It is all these things that you have been doing during the last three months.<br />
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Things like washing hands often, ensuring higher level of sanitation, cooking food at home, perhaps from scratch, learning to coexist for long hauls with family and perhaps even enjoying life .<br />
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It could also be learning to slow down and taking time to listen to the birds and bees with whom we we share our Earth.<br />
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Work from home is the current norm and many have come to appreciate it during this pandemic. What if we took it further into the post pandemic days? Although everyone may not be able to afford this luxury the burden on the world will be reduced if this becomes the new normal.<br />
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Most importantly we may have learned that life is more important than work, work keeps us satisfied and free of hunger but what matters most is being happy no matter what happens.<br />
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Another truth many may have encountered is that life is possible without their polluting vehicles and unnecessary trips across the globe.<br />
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The new normal could include ensuring that you buy less, waste less and use your resources efficiently.<br />
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For some it could also mean learning to face their fears and accepting things as they come.<br />
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One thing people have learned by now is being a control freak doesn't help. There are other higher powers that take control, all the control we can have is only with ourselves.<br />
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Children are learning to depend on their families more than friends, it is the best time for parents to renew their bonding and work on closer and better relationships with children. Wouldn't this be an amazing new norm?<br />
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While we are learning to socially distance ourselves we have also discovered that churches, temples , mosques, synagogues are not needed to connect ourselves with God. All we need is faith and belief in the Almighty one. Religion and man made religious structures cannot contain God. Prayers on streets work too, prayers from balconies are fine as well, but faith is all we need. Faith is a spiritual thing, we have tried to give it a physical, ritual and materialist side to make it easier for us to understand.<br />
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Most of us have learned that we can divide our time rightly with work, family, creativity and still live without major issues. Socializing is fine but we don't have to party everyday. Engaging in sports is fun, but we don't have to lose our head over it.<br />
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Life is simple, we have complicated it so much that it takes us a pandemic to get back to the basics.<br />
Simple life is not only happy life but it is also stress free life.Try not to complicate it further. Accept the new normal, don't wait for another pandemic to learn the basics all over again.<br />
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Life is amazing let your hair down, small the roses or jasmines or whatever you have. Savor each moment and make it worthwhile. Enjoy each day, bring a smile to someones face today.<br />
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Don't focus on negativity, we have too much of it right now with the pandemic. Say something uplifting to someone today, doing something beautiful for someone if each one does this we could bring about a balance in our world today. <br />
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-83027414148761132782019-08-04T19:41:00.004+05:302019-08-04T19:41:47.970+05:30Setbacks to Success<div style="background-attachment: initial; background-clip: initial; background-image: initial; background-origin: initial; background-position: 0px 0px; background-repeat: initial; background-size: initial; border-style: solid; border-width: 0px; font-size: 16px; margin-bottom: 20px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline;">
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Setbacks Are Not The End</span></b></div>
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I was writing an article the other day and I came up with this line. I found it pretty <b>inspiring</b> and I wanted to share it here with you. <b>Let your setbacks become a springboard for your comeback</b>. </div>
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<b>Setbacks are common in life,</b> but wallowing in misery that the setback has brought you would only make things worse. <b>Instead use the setback as a springboard for your success.</b> </div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Emotions Are Energy</span></b></div>
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Setbacks always leave us with anger, resentment or hurt. <b>Allow the anger and the disappointment within you to create something that makes heads turn, </b>ears perk up and eyes widen with astonishment. </div>
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The energy that could be wasted in negative emotions which make you feel even worse than before need to be converted into positive energy. This energy when put into action can bring out the best in you. </div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Rise Above Your Emotions</span></b></div>
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<b>Prove the world wrong by rising above the situation.</b> Do whatever you do in the best, in the way you can. Let your work rest, look at it again, you may see the flaws in your work, correct them. </div>
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You may come up with new and better ideas to do what you have done. Don't be afraid to redo the work if you have too. <b>Work until the the dullness wears off and the work is illuminated with the brilliance of your effort</b>.</div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Become The One You Want to Be</span></b></div>
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<b>You cannot become the one you want to be by being who you are now.</b> Let the anger and the disappointment drive your comeback. Become the one you have always wanted to be. Change is the way to growth. </div>
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<b>Commitment is the strength that can keep you in your track to reach the goal</b>. Never let it go out of sight. If you have to write your goal on a placard and put it on your desk to remind you do so. If you have to have the text running on your phone each time you look at it make it your wallpaper. Do what it takes to remain committed to your objective. </div>
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Drive Away The Doubts and Fear</span></b></div>
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<b>Do not entertain the lies and the doubts</b> that stealthily enter your mind. Drive them out with the purpose that is now in your heart, to prove your worth. <b> Challenge every doubt</b> and see if it holds water, test it against your past achievements. Remember that there is always a first time. Do not fear the outcome. give it your best shot. </div>
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<b>Do not let the setback push you to the edge</b>, take control of yourself. <b>Do not allow your emotions take the reigns</b>. <b>Emotions are there </b>for a purpose, let them serve their purpose. <b>To make you what you ought to be</b>. </div>
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<b>Let your emotions become your ally not your enemy</b>. It is not enough to ensure that there are no distractions. <b>It is more important to work as one, thoughts, emotions and action. </b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-align: justify;">All of us have been under pressure at sometime or the
other in life. It is a common denominator for people of all classes and races. Pressure
or stress in itself is not a big deal, it is how we are prepared to handle pressure that makes
the difference.</span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-align: justify;"> </span><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif; text-align: justify;">Pressure has a definite impact
on performance, relationships and health. The ability to keep calm under
pressure, to respond to a challenge rather than react to it is the ability being to handle pressure well. </span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Our success in life depends heavily on emotional stability or how we handle pressure.
Emotional stability leads to stable relationships which in turn provides the required
support during times of stress. The ability to hold out under pressure and
perform efficiently also relies heavily on a person’s emotional stability. Pressure
tests bring out the best or the worst in us. It is an indicator of what makes
us tick.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Emotional stability helps us to think calmly and dispassionately
in pressure situations. We are able to consciously consider various rational solutions
to our problems and choose the best plan of action instead of reacting to them with fear,
anxiety and negativity. We learn to endure pressure and come out of it with
greater strength and ability to deal with problems. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Some of us may even act like imbalanced and unreasonable people
when we are under pressure, especially in relationships. We say things we ought
not to, call people names and react violently to stressful situation. This behavior blows the problem out of proportion and makes it difficult to work
through them. When we act in haste and fear we tend to damage all chances of
resolving the issue at hand. We often jump to conclusion, rely heavily on our imagination
rather than on actual facts and press all the panic buttons. At times we also <a href="https://www.blogger.com/u/1/blogger.g?blogID=1788061795483471788#editor/target=post;postID=7742644357865464869;onPublishedMenu=allposts;onClosedMenu=allposts;postNum=2;src=postname" target="_blank">obsess about things</a> and run around in circles. We tend to antagonize people, even those
who bear good will towards us. Inability to handle pressure effectively could lead to us becoming loners,
worriers and poor performers. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Is it
possible to act with grace under pressure? Why not? Nothing is written in
stone. All behavior is learned. We are always changing and evolving as a
species. We need to change for the better, which means we take the right
decisions. We learn to do things right. It takes practice, a lot of practice.
Impossible is nothing. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Self-awareness is the key to keep our untamed nature
under check. Culture is all about this, we learn acceptable forms of behavior.
Constantly keeping a tab on our emotions and how we react to anything that stressful
would be the first step towards change for the better. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Practicing the right behavior, keeping our emotions in
check, swallowing our pride and accepting our short comings would be another
small step towards progress.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">It is only our egos that come in the way of change. Once
we keep this huge liability in check we can think clearly and work efficiently even
under pressure. Our ego often cripples us with its unrealistic demands to
protect itself from being hurt, at the cost of progress. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Anxiety and fear are common to everyone. Practice and
working on skills could keep these under check. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "verdana" , sans-serif;">Lastly, cultivate good social habits. This works under
pressure and out of it. It helps improve moods and leads to better social
adaptation. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-12081444690837499912018-11-01T23:14:00.002+05:302018-11-01T23:14:54.297+05:30Surprises Make The Sweetest Memories<br />
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Life is full of surprises. It happens instantaneously
and has the power to change your mood for the day or sometimes even the very
outlook of your life. It has the power to amaze you and fill you with instant
energy. Best of all, it makes memories and sometimes the sweetest ones.</span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="color: black;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Many years ago we (my spouse and I)
had taken in (emotionally adopted) two </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">young people into our
hearts and lives. (For the purpose of anonymity I have chosen to represent
both these individuals as young women.) We treated them like our children, took
them wherever we went and shared our lives with them. Life was good and then things changed. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">One of those young persons decided that
she didn't want to be adopted, she also decided that she did not need
protection or guidance from others anymore and made her own decisions with
life. No amount of pleading, cautioning, explaining could change her mind. It
was then I decided to let go and let her do her own thing with life. It was her
life after all and she had every right to make her own mistakes and learn from
them, we were just adopted parents. Mistakes she made, numerous ones and it
cost her, her happiness and peace. It hurt us to watch destroy herself, all I
could do was to cry silently and pray for her. </span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Years passed and we learned to live
without her. Things began to normalize and then more surprise happened. She
called me up one day seeming for some advice about her career. I helped her out
with that, but deep within I knew she wanted to speak about other important
things. I did not want to offer any unsolicited advice which I thought would
again trigger her rebellious nature. Time passed by, she called me up
regularly and struck up some inane conversation. We both knew that we
wanted to talk about things that really mattered, but we never did. Finally
when she couldn’t bear her suffering anymore she broke down and asked for
help. </span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">The trust she had in me to help her
with 'the biggest decision' in her life and the faith she placed in me to admit
that she was wrong moved me to tears. Life was perfect once again. However,
what she told me was an eye-opener, She hated that she was adopted, she hated
that we protected her from the harsh realities of life, she hated that her
decisions were always colored by what we expected of her. </span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">Amazingly, all the things she said
she hated are the things she seeks from us now. Our life experiences changes
the way we look at people and ourselves. Life never ceases to surprise us.
For me this wasn't just an experience, it is a lesson for life. We offered two
kids the same kind of love and care. Each of them responded differently to
them. The other young person has always taken my advice, always wanted my
approval and always lived by our standards. She has been independent
financially for a few years now, but emotionally I continue to be what I was to
her when I first took her in.</span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;"><span style="color: black;">The once rebellious child has now
become the closest and most needy young woman. She even told me she
treasures our relationship so much, that she is willing to let go of her
freedom. Now, it was my turn to rebel, I believe in freedom. I believe in love
that does not hold on. I surprised myself again. Surprises never cease, they
are the spice of life. </span><span style="color: black;"><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="background: white; color: #333333; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Today, I not only have lovely daughters and my biological children, but
also sweet memories to hold on to when life takes another turn. But, what is
that to me. I am always ready to accept life as it comes and deal with it like
a solder, surprises or not. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-77426443578654648692018-10-29T22:22:00.000+05:302018-10-29T22:22:29.519+05:30Obsessing Over Something or Someone<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2Kc2tskhX8wREHsRxRjF9ioWmBro3xyobLjPxe4jsgVCWGEU15oditosGzhSF6G1VhxPtXXj3ID8Al_lRlJwGMHI4z4x3qpKl8tPCNQBbGSKaRGBzx_7esdZsi5r28tqEjwTJNK6Mf7jg/s1600/obession.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;"><img border="0" data-original-height="635" data-original-width="778" height="261" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg2Kc2tskhX8wREHsRxRjF9ioWmBro3xyobLjPxe4jsgVCWGEU15oditosGzhSF6G1VhxPtXXj3ID8Al_lRlJwGMHI4z4x3qpKl8tPCNQBbGSKaRGBzx_7esdZsi5r28tqEjwTJNK6Mf7jg/s320/obession.png" width="320" /></span></a><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Several times this last month I have been approached for
help by people struggling to deal with obsession of some sort or the other.
Obsession even if it is not considered a morbid condition could become a nerve-wracking
experience. It could completely throw life off balance and get people into
serious trouble. Your mind runs off down a rabbit hole, leaving the rest of
your life at standstill. It is overwhelming in nature as it consumes all your
time and energy. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The worst side of obsession
is that it could grow even worse when the object of the obsession is suddenly withdrawn/taken
away. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A little obsession can be good, if
directly rightly. It could drive career growth or help people achieve their
goals effortlessly. Having said that, the very word obsession indicates imbalance. To put it simply, obsession is trying to grip
something so hard that you squeeze the life blood out of it, either way the you suffers loss.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Obsession is an addiction, it is intoxicating and
overwhelming at first. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It seemingly provides
some sort of relief when one indulges in it, however it is a deep ravine that is
difficult to get out of over a period of time. It is tempting to give in to the
obsession despite knowing that it is irrational behavior.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It drains out so much of your time. Obsessions preoccupy
the mind and make it impossible to get the mind off it. Consequently it leaches
out so much of one’s valuable time which could be devoted to constructive and
meaningful pursuits. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It makes a person lose focus on what is important. The
individual tends to fail dismally in his or her ability to prioritize needs and
wants in life, which essentially means that the person’s life could be in
complete disarray.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Much of the time spent in a day is wasted unproductively on the thing they obsess about.
The person’s obsession takes up all the energy, as he/she may be checking on
stuff or worrying over them repeatedly even when he/she knows that nothing much
changes in the short time. </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Obsession leads to unwanted stress. The mind is
constantly engaged in making sense of a situation or solving a stressful problem
or perceived threats. Sometimes this kind of over rumination leads to second guessing,
assuming or imagining things that may or may not happen. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Obsession with stuff or people is likely to emotionally
unbalance the person. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Severe mood
swings, getting annoyed or frustrated easily, sometimes even being abusive
could be the result of this emotional imbalance. It is also possible that the
person’s excessive indulgence in negative thoughts and ruminations could lead
to a certain amount of paranoia. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">Obsession could impair judgment and cause individuals to
take uncalled for risks, making them do things totally out of character. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This could make life difficult for them and
others concerned. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">It saps people out physically and reducing their immunity
which could in turn give rise to causes other medical complications like hypertension,
morbid anxiety, heartburn and ulcers to name a few. Food obsessions could lead to other forms of physiological problems like obesity, high blood sugar levels etc.,<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%;"><span style="font-family: "arial" , "helvetica" , sans-serif;">If the obsession is with a person then it could turn to
hate and violence if the object of the obsession does not to respond positively
to the person’s overtures. This extreme preoccupation with someone could also
backfire in that, the object of their interest could start feeling stifled and
move away from the person. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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break away from any extreme form of attachment or preoccupations in the light
of one’s mental and physical health. It would be good to stand back and take a
good look at your life, count the cost, refocus on what is important. To wean
yourself away from the obsession it would help to, stop looking/indulging in
those things that take your focus back to your obsession, refuse to constantly
speak about it or mentally engage in those thoughts. Take a break, give your
mind rest and you will be able to think clearly and rationally. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-14256533150097620912018-10-09T17:11:00.000+05:302018-10-09T17:11:47.105+05:30Attitude to Life - Stress Free Life<br />
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Alphabets are a set of symbols, but they would remain just
that if they are not aligned rightly. A rightly aligned set of symbols become a word, a string of meaningfully related words become a sentence. A group of logically
connected sentences become a paragraph, which can then be fused together to
create the magic called books, articles, stories, poems and the like. The magic
lies in how we rightly use words to express an idea and drive the idea further
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Life is like this too. Our approach to it, which we normally
call - attitude, determines how we align our life. Right responses create pleasant
incidents, which in turn leads to learning some important life skills. These in
turn help us string several agreeable incidents together to make for a happy
life. A happy life then can move towards contentment, adventure or even excitement.
It is then entirely up to each individual to make what he or she wants to do
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How do we make the right responses? Attitude, intelligence, emotions,
choices, reactions, priorities, values and goals could be some of the key
components in this process. Aligning the right reaction or attitude to an
incident, with the proper use of logical thought process, making the right choices
after considering one's priorities in life with personal values and goals in
mind would make for proper alignment in life. This alignment would be the backbone
to our happiness or satisfaction in life. When the right sequence is muddled for
any reason, chaos results, making life not so agreeable anymore.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It is the choice of individuals whether to make the process
of life simple or complicated. when we have simple goals in mind, it is easy to
find the right response in any situation. A well-defined goal makes life easy.
It is half the journey completed. The rest of the journey depends on focus,
attention to detail and learning from the process itself. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Learning to enjoy the moment without pegging our
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Whether we want to make a poem or a novel of our lives is
totally in our hands. The skills we work on everyday will help us get there. So
keep working those alphabets, I mean skills and it will soon become a fine bouquet
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-46408599997073902172018-09-27T19:03:00.001+05:302018-09-27T19:03:46.470+05:30Caught up in the maddening pace of life <br />
Are you caught up in this maddening pace of life? I am too, at times. Being extremely busy has now become our normal lifestyle, very few are exempt from it. Those few are the wise and the well lived<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><br />It appears as though we have fewer choices in life, we are subsequently forced to either fall in line or perish. There seems to be some kind of concealed threat looming large over us which fills us with a constant trepidation that we would be trampled upon if we ever slowed down. Menacing as it seems, yet there are those who live a rather peaceful existence of no worries, no frills and no thrills. Do we dare think that they may not be the happy and or lead rather mundane lives ? I believe they could be some of the happiest people on the face of this earth. They compete with none, live life at their own pace and on their own terms.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The decisions we take regarding our lives make us happy or unhappy. However it is rather sad to think that many of our decisions are often influenced by parameters such as finances, career plans accumulation of possessions etc. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br />Simple living has taken a back seat today. This has been replaced by material and mental clutter. To walk away from it all is rather difficult, and yet, this is true freedom. Freedom from social and cultural expectations, freedom from worry and freedom to do what we want with our lives. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br />This reminds me of an incident from the Bible where Jesus said to a rich young man, sell what you have, give it to the poor and come follow me ( I am only paraphrasing here) the rich young man as virtuous as he was turned and went away sadly. This kind of sums up the angst of our times.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-52793155893927499872016-04-05T11:36:00.000+05:302019-01-04T12:25:36.462+05:30Living life happily <table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Blogging seems have taken a back seat in my life as my other priorities have taken over. Its seems life acquires a balance of its own without us having to do much. Times and interests change as we grow and change as people. Taking each day as it comes makes living life happily as easy as pie.<br />
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Although blogging has been put on the back burner life itself has been bubbling with fun, love and happiness. New hobbies (or in my case those that had been shelved for lack of resources) have now come to the fore and have acquired a new life of their own. Perspectives in life change as interests change too. Life is even more colorful than before. </div>
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One thing I have learned about life is you never measure your life by your achievements but by your happiness. I can confidently say that I could easily score a 9 (or maybe a bit more) out of 10 if I had to evaluate life this way. Life is not about what you have or what you have not .. its about how you use what is. What you have is this moment.</div>
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Life is not about position, status, money or seeking thrills; its about finding your balance in the sequence of things and swinging along joyfully despite the blowing winds. Life is about giving the best of what you have to those around you. Life is about being happy no matter what. </div>
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Happiness lies not in the finest of things, but in living the moment with openness of mind. I have no desire to seek adventures or thrills in my life, each day with its promises and unknown threats have enough of it for me to make it an adventure. When I live each moment of my life happily it is an adventure in itself. It is a day well lived. </div>
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Life is simple when we know the purpose of living. Finding the purpose of life makes the journey worth the experience. Oftentimes the purpose is really simple, but we as people seek complicated answers, the plain truth before us seems too obvious and ordinary to be the purpose of life.</div>
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Life is to be lived. Running after things, people, position etc.,only takes you further away from the act of living. People oftentimes get so engrossed with the drama of living that they forget that the drama is just a stage performance for a short while, real living happens behind the scenes. Cutting out the drama and living simple to me embodies perfect living. If you didn't get what I mean live isn't what people post on Facebook, thankfully I hardly go there. </div>
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Life provides its own drama and tragedies without us having to run after them. Living is simply the ability to process these high tensions scenes, keep sight of the mundane and being able to walk normally with focus on living. This ensures that peace and joy remain constantly in our lives no matter what is happening at the moment. </div>
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How do I live life happily? I would say - its sane, almost perfect in this imperfect world. My eyes are focused steadily on each moment as it happens and my mind is focused on living it the best I can. </div>
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-41810974997439156062015-10-01T19:27:00.000+05:302015-10-01T19:27:42.886+05:30Life Is Beautiful even Without a Camera<h2>
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long time I have always been wanting to write but somehow I couldn’t bring
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been beautiful to me minus the camera. It will always be, whether I have my
camera or not. Not a day has passed me by without me wondering how sweet this
life is. Despite all the flaws, the failings the pain and the loss, life is
beautiful. I cannot stress this enough. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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never lets me down, there is always a moment of pure unadulterated beauty in it
as the light streaks through the clouds or the clouds play around in the wind. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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into the garden every morning the flowers never fail to surprise me, I often
miss a breath as I gaze upon their vibrant color and beauty. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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ones never fail to give me that smile I long to see, that word I long to hear.
I don’t need a camera to frame the moment in.. My eyes, my heart and my very
soul have snatched that fleeting moment and framed it in a gallery of eternity,
an eternity that would end with me. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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of life is not about its great moments it is about the simple happenings every
day. When I enjoy every moment of my life the great things happen unexpectedly,
making me ecstatic. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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two street dogs recently and they seem to be happy to see me every time. It’s
the expectant faith in their eyes that sometimes makes me want to laugh out
loud and sometimes fills my heart with love. They know that the food lady is
here and their need will be met. They follow me around when I get out of the
house and seem to watch out for me all day. A little goes a long way, and they
seem to know, I give them a little food and they give me all they have. Life is
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-37981857927517884602014-02-03T21:59:00.000+05:302014-02-03T22:00:16.214+05:30What To Do When You Are Not In A Mood To Do AnythingI am sure that you have woken up to days when you<br />
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were not in a mood to do anything; most of us have felt that way sometime or the other in life. What do you do at times like that? Do you let your mood (your state of mind) take control over your life or do you do something to get yourself into a mood to do something? To let your emotions take control of your life is foolishness for the person of reason that you are. However most of us seem to be unaware of the fact that our moods hijack us from reaching our destiny from time to time. <br />
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<b>Watch a motivating video</b>. I always pick up videos of people doing incredible tasks to watch when I don’t feel like doing much, this often provides me with the drive that I need to move ahead. It is good to have a handy list of great motivating videos bookmarked from which you could pick one to watch on your low days.<br />
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<b>Try affirmations</b>. I usually say, “Although I am not in the mood for doing anything, I uncover the energy and enthusiasm within to accomplish all that I set out to do today.” When you make such an affirmation, you accept the reality as it is; however you also speak a newer reality into existence; which is well within your power.<br />
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
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Most people don’t seem to appreciate the comforting peace of everyday life until everything goes terribly wrong. We take the steady rhythm of life for granted, never stopping to appreciate the people and things around us. Most of us seem to believe that life owes us something. The painful truth is that life owes us nothing; it is left to us to make the most of what we have. <br />
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Learning to be grateful is an important step to being at peace with oneself. Gratitude fills you an appetite for life and all that it has to offer. You approach life with no demands and grab what you get with a grateful heart. You learn to enjoy and treasure the simple things of life. <br />
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Being grateful and positive helps you appreciate the present as it is and to live in the now taking in everything around you with an open mind. It makes it easy for you to enjoy the normal ebb and flow of life and the pulsating moments of life with the same fervor. You even learn to appreciate the troubles of life and the learning possibilities that each of these events bring in their wings. <br />
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The mundane routines and chores which now seem tedious could be the heaven you seek when things turn chaotic. What you perceive now as boredom could then become the life you yearn for at a time of trouble. Why wait until you go through difficulties to appreciate what you have now. Make each day and each chore meaningful with the way you perceive it. Change the way you look at your life right now. I am reminded of the story of a woman who thought that her life of serving her husband and her children was a mundane and cursed existence until a terrible tragedy claimed the lives of husband and children one day. Her only desire then was to serve her dead children and husband for a just day. <br />
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-36004975926783336572014-01-03T08:30:00.000+05:302014-01-03T09:32:42.844+05:30Make the journey your goal<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Goals are important, but so is the journey. We often make
too much of the goals and disregard the importance of enjoying the journey
itself. I believe that the goal of life is living life to its fullness. Other goals
aren't really very significant, they are just rewards that on route to living a
full life. Goals aren't destinations; they are just trophies and symbols of
life which are often confused with success. </div>
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Since the journey is the major part of your life it is
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present, there is no assurance that you would enjoy your life after the
achievement of your goals. Often one goal follows another and life becomes a
rat race. Take time to enjoy what you do and what you have while you stride
determinedly towards enjoying life.<br />
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Happiness is not about getting what you don’t have, it is
about enjoying who you are and what you have. Make the journey a discovery and
an adventure that you enjoy. It is left to each individuals imagination and
creativity to make the most of what he/she has.</div>
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The journey is the exploration and experimentation part of
life, from which you learn life skills. Having the right attitude towards
learning and making learning a fun experience for yourself could make any journey
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Although it is good to have a purpose and direction in life,
achieving your goals should not become your focus. The sad truth about a goal
driven life is that we as adults have learned to connect goals to success or
failure. Learning is a process of growth, there is no such thing as success or
failure in learning. While some concepts are easily learned, it cost us more
time and effort to get around others. It is about dedication, attitude and
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If you could learn to rewire your brain into believing that
goals aren't as important as the journey itself, you could save yourself a lot
of worry, anxiety, pain and regrets. It would then be easy to focus on enjoying
each day and living your best life. </div>
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-23829921998017365592013-12-12T15:58:00.001+05:302013-12-12T15:58:41.326+05:30One Step at a Time can Change your Life<blockquote class="tr_bq">
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One Step at a time can change your life. You don’t believe me? Try it. No matter what
your problem is you can change the way you live by starting with one step at a
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I have been working on some important projects and I unconsciously
decided that it gave me the license to leave things as they are. This meant
that my desk was full of clutter and so was my dump yard (the store room). The
more I looked at it the more difficult it was to find time to clean up. Each
time I thought of cleaning up arose my next thought would be, ‘this would take
me hours I cannot afford to spend that kind of time right now.’ Nothing
happened, except that dust and stuff piled up on my desk.</div>
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Then one morning I could bear the sight of the clutter
anymore and I decided that I would give the clutter a few minutes of my time before
I began work for that day. Guess what? My few minutes turned to an hour and my
desk was clean. I decided that I would give a few minutes each day to whatever
needed my attention. I should say that life isn't the same anymore. So much
stuff has been cleared up and I am back to my saner, clutter free world.</div>
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This works with anything. I started on a raw diet, one item
on my meal at a time. I have progressed to 75% raw vegetarian diet in the
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I have this habit of getting glued to my work desk
throughout the day. I decided to walk a few steps at a time. Initially it was
difficult to break my old habits. I would tell myself I’ll do this later, now,
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However, once I got started on it my five minute walk
progressed to an hour long walk. Now, I have built in hours of walk into my daily
routine. When you do something in small manageable parts that doesn't seem
overwhelming, you can change your life one step at a time. </div>
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Start small and keep at it until the thrill of success drives
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If you found this post useful share the link today with someone who could use some help. Thank you. </div>
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-18213026783796242212013-12-06T12:59:00.000+05:302019-01-04T12:36:51.525+05:3010 Ways to Stay Positive in Life<br />
To stay positive is a matter of choice and habit. Here are ten simple ways to stay positive in life. These tips are simple, easy to follow and could help you change the way you think, if you would put them to practice. If I could become positive you certainly can; don’t give up or give in. <br />
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1. Make a list of people/things you are grateful for; add five or more new things to your to gratitude list each day. Be sure to add at least one positive thing about your<br />
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5. Don’t let people get to you. Take charge of your emotions. When you are not in control of your emotions you allow people to press your buttons.. You become a puppet in the hands of others and you blast off when they chose to make you angry or you fall flat when the put you down. </div>
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6. Don’t wait for others to befriend you, go out of your way to smile and compliment others around you. Find friends who inspire you and are positive in their approach.<br />
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7. Don’t wait for people to make you happy. Find your own happiness, that doesn't mean shop till you drop. That means find things that bring you long lasting happiness and work towards them.<br />
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8. Reach out to others who are less fortunate than you. I can confidently say this is the most fulfilling thing in my life.<br />
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-67092494740126508802013-12-04T13:31:00.000+05:302019-07-23T08:54:07.294+05:30Success and failure - Live life with passion<div class="MsoNormal">
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<b>Self-consciousness or shyness, robs us of our natural passion
and zeal for living</b>. As babies our learning was exploratory, experiential and
inquisitive by nature. Risk taking was high and parents had to constantly
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However, each time our curiosity was restrained we have
learned to control our instincts and learn more from instruction than from sensory
learning<b>. </b> The down side to this is that our
<b>healthy curiosity and desire for experimentation has been sacrificed at the
altar of self preservation.</b> Another discouraging side of this learning style is
that <b>we have confused making mistakes with failure.</b> </div>
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<b>Making mistakes is an important element of learning. </b>As
babies when we started to walk we fell many times, this did not stop us from
walking ever again. We rose up from each fall striving harder to find our
balance. How is that we shy away from falling/ failing or making mistakes as
adults? <b>We seem to be a delicate generation of people shielded from mistakes,
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Many people say they are ‘shy’. Could this be just another
word for not wanting to fall below the mark, not wanting to fall in the eyes of
others, not wanting others to think that you can’t do it? </div>
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<b>We need to break loose from these chains of what others
think of us</b>. This is a kind of mental slavery wanting to gain acceptance and approval from others. We need to understand that what they think is their own business, it is their life, it is the choice they make.<br />
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<b>Fail to succeed. Success and failure</b>, are not the end of
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Forget those around you. Let them live their life. You let your hair down and dance like no one is watching. If they are watching, remember then they so desire what is in you. <b>Love your life, live it with passion. </b></div>
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-40839109980739040482013-06-25T11:26:00.000+05:302013-12-10T20:44:33.737+05:30The self absorbed lifeI think I am growing old or I am terribly old fashioned. When I look around I see a whole new breed of mankind, a self absorbed and self indulgent race. I am sure that I would feel totally out of place here, if not for my attitude not to see or dwell upon the negative things of life. Self indulgence maybe okay to an extent, but when people cannot think or see beyond themselves, it tells me that something is wrong with the world.<br />
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'It's all about me' - this is the attitude of a self absorbed person, everything that happens around him/her is all about him/her. It speaks of shallowness of the soul which cannot grow to accommodate others into the weave, weft and warp of the fabric called life. This makes the person hard to relate to and difficult to have a conversation with. Most conversations end up being one-way lanes which can be best labelled as self absorbed ramblings seeking to grab the lime light / attention of the other.<br />
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Every interaction seem to be weighed on just one factor - 'what is in it for me?'. In their preoccupation they seem to believe that they are entitled to get anything they want at the cost of others. They demand attention expecting people to drop what ever they are doing and to listen to them or come to their aid. The lack of consideration and concern for others shines through it all. Envy and insecurity seem to be their hallmark often disguised beneath a veil of confidence. This is a sad life indeed.<br />
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Making use of others for my personal gain would not even merit my consideration, yet the world around me today seems like a microcosm of coexistent parasites. This makes trusting another person difficult. This also makes human relationships very complex and very mathematical by nature. I am poor at math skills... perhaps that is why I am unable to reduce relationships to a such equations. <br />
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I am glad to have learned values that were different. I am glad to have been born in a different time and age when it was important to consider the priorities of others before you thrust yourself on them. Life then was all about putting others before self. Helping others and being courteous were considered virtues worth cultivation. There was this sense of community and unity then. Today, I would love to know my neighbor, but he is too busy to stop and smile or say hello. He even goes one step further, to duck behind the blinds to avoid everyone.<br />
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This seems to me like a claustrophobic world which is just wide enough for one person. There is a growing fear, a paranoia around us. People are interested in what they can get from others while living in fear of being asked for favors. Widening your world to include others may have its difficulties, but it certainly makes your world more colourful, rich in experiences and filled with varied flavours. It makes the milk of human compassion flow through you, making you whole as a person. It opens your eyes to the plight of others making your pain and difficulties pain pale into insignificance. It teaches you to give, receive, live in hope and reach out to others. It adds more dimensions to life. It gives reality to existence. It brings you to the realization that there is more joy in giving than in taking/grabbing. <br />
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Maybe be its time we changed and went back to the roots of community living. Life is worth living only when you live with a purpose, when it grows out of the self absorbed existence. This may not be acceptable to many but this is what self improvement is all about. <br />
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-9830722755196096422013-03-09T22:08:00.000+05:302013-12-10T20:41:41.098+05:30Fake it and you won't make it<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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Fake it and you'll make it has been the self-improvement mantra for years now. I don't agree on this one.. I believe if you fake it you'll be found out. Instead make a sincere effort at self- improvement.<br />
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When there is a disconnect between your emotions and thought; your actions seem strange and alien even to your eyes. When you look at yourself as a stranger and need to take a second glance to make sure that the person in the mirror is you.. be sure the people around your would be even more critical of you. They are watching you at your new game under their magnifying glasses.<br />
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Okay, I hear your question loud and clear - How do I change myself?<br />
Be true to yourself. Don't fake a behavior, instead make a sincere attempt to learn the new one. Your attitude is the difference.<br />
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When you fake something you lie to yourself, when you learn something you are honest about your lack of knowledge in that area.<br />
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Admit to your friends that you are trying to change yourself. You will find unexpected support coming from their side.<br />
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Tell yourself it is okay to fail. It takes the stress off you and you learn in an relaxed environment. It has been known that when learning takes place in a relaxed environment, learning is effective.<br />
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Self-improvement is not about faking, it is about making it in life. Faking it is adding stress to your already stressed life. For eg. if I have to fake happiness (thank heavens I never have to do that) I might find my face hurting with all those fake smiles. I would be stressed out emotionally, as it is not my nature to smile at those things that make me angry. I would possibly be at my breaking point and would be ready to pounce on some unsuspecting person.<br />
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Mentally, I working doubly hard as it have to remember that I need to fake a smile, be on my alert all the time and smile and bear it all when I would have been happily swearing at everyone.<br />
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Start with a self affirmation like I have the power to change.<br />
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Add a couple of affirmation about the specif change that you are aiming to make. Eg. I choose to be happy. I have control over my emotions.<br />
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This is very honest and acceptable affirmation. Your mind, emotions and actions can now work together in harmony.<br />
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There is no disconnect between your perception and action. The change will be smooth and transition won't hurt you too much.<br />
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Here is the new mantra - Take it from where you are and you'll make it!<br />
<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-67230964734144739012013-02-18T20:37:00.000+05:302013-12-10T20:35:51.120+05:30Let go<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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'Let go' has been a principle of life which I have used successfully all my life. Negative events are as much a part of life as positive / happy events. It is when we carry negative memories of unhappy happenings that we add pain to our life. Letting go gives you the freedom to look to the future with hope.<br />
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I do not live in the past, I don't think anyone who wants to be happy should. My moment is now, the present. I live it like there is no tomorrow. I have no regrets or pain from the past. I have been able to handle each of life's situations with a good amount of objectivity.<br />
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Do I make mistakes? Don't I regret them?<br />
Oh yes! Like everyone else I make mistakes. But then, it is a mistake, what is the point of crying over it. Wrong choices often cause much pain. The point is not to prolong the pain and make a mess of your life. When you can see objectively through the events it is time to change your decisions. I am human enough to accept my mistakes. The cost of having made a wrong choices often lingers on and pulls you down like dead weight, but I have learned to sift out the wanted from the unwanted. I make a choice to solve issues not cry over them. I move on. Hard as it is, I know that this is the only way to live.<br />
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Let go of thoughts that tie you to the past. It is quite possible that they tie you to your mistakes and cause your confidence levels to go down. Replace negative thoughts with positive working thoughts which can help you breakthrough the impasse.<br />
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Let go of worry. Worry takes you into the past and links it with fear of the future. I believe that the best is yet to come. This helps me to wake up each morning with a purpose and accomplish what I desire. I believe I can always work through problems. Nothing really overwhelms me.<br />
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Let go of pain. This is one area where I need to work some more. I do carry a bit of emotional pain, more so because I have had my giants share of it lately. The pain of loss, the pain of being unable to write, the pain of letting people take advantage of my goodness. I need to shake it all off and go back to living life with zeal. I have never stopped being what I am or making the most of moment, but i have allowed the weight of the pain to cloud my mind. All I need to do is forget those things of the past and cut my connection with those things that remind me of pain. I need to immerse myself in the joy of living all over again.<br />
Life is to be lived, and I will live it like I have always done, to the full.<br />
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Cutting the strings of the past is another important step in letting go. It is just one clean sweep and once you have done it, it has no power over you. You need to know what to hold on to and what to let go..<br />
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Let go of everything that keeps you from living life to the full. All those things that conflict with your beliefs and values. These are the things that keep you from finding your peace.<br />
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Find your passion, that fire that burns within you.. immerse yourself in it. As for me I have found my fire.. my passion for photography has come alive once again. I know that I will soon find those bits that have evaded me. For now I live, live as if there is no tomorrow.<br />
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Let go.. Live your moment.<br />
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-59886071630602688052013-01-03T10:51:00.001+05:302013-12-10T20:36:26.499+05:30Inspiration for life<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant. There is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.- Johann Gottfried Von Herder.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Often times in life we need inspiration to hang on to our goals/dreams and achieve them despite the events of life. My dreams came to a standstill a few months ago when life took strange twists and turns... Loss and death had overwhelmed me. I couldn't bring myself to write another word. I took a break and waited for my inspiration. It never did come.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Now, at the beginning of this New year I needed inspiration more than anything else. I searched for my inspiration all around and realized that I am my inspiration. My mind is powerful and needs just a gentle reminder to spark a fire. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I had taken a little holiday, a holiday in a jungle. As we drove through the forest I noticed a huge forest fire... our guide explained, "Forest fires are common on hot days, a gentle breeze is enough to start one", he said. Being unsure about what he meant, I looked up to him for further explanation, he added, "the rubbing of dried bamboo in a clump against each other often starts a little fire, which spreads."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Those words kept ringing in my ears long after I left the jungle. I need a forest fire to get me started I thought, then I remembered that all I needed was a gentle breeze. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I remembered the story of a woman called Rose, who attended a university at 87. It was the dream of her life to get herself a college education. She did not give up even at 87. She said in a speech she made.. " We do not make a living with what we get, we make a life with what we give."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">This thought has inspired me to move on. I will write, for that is my dream. I will write until I reach my destination. The gentle breeze is blowing and I will inspire myself to reach for the stars. I will give all it takes to make this life more beautiful than ever. The past is forgotten, I will sail on wings like eagles. My mind will soar to greater heights, I will not let these things of the past hold me any longer. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">The sky is clear, a gentle breeze is blowing, winged words shall take flight and weave their magic in words. I shall not hold them back any longer. I shall find my inspiration. I am determined.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">If you have been struggling like me, held back by circumstances, let your imagination take flight, draw your inspiration from your dreams and move on. Live the life that you have always dreamed of. Let no one come in your path. Remember, bad things happen to the best of us.. but they need not bring our life to a standstill.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Ignite your imagination, don't wait for the opportune moment, it may never come. The moment is now and here, so make it yours. I needed to remind myself of this, over and over again..no matter what happens your goals are only lost when you give up on them. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">My dream, my goals will see a new thrust. They will once again take flight, undeterred by the happenings around. I will see my book, my words in print sooner than I thought. I am determined, I am motivated and I am inspired.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">A small fire has begun, soon it will become a forest fire, fire not of destruction, but of new life and inspiration. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I hope this year will be a year of great inspiration and achievement for you. Aim for the stars and you shall float in the space of your inspiration, until you reach your destination, and find your dreams. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Wishing you all a year of accomplishment and joy, health and contentment, love and laughter. </span></div>
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<div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-76816825441593025352012-12-17T19:40:00.002+05:302013-12-10T21:50:36.555+05:30Dealing with holiday stress<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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This is the first year in all my adult life that I will not be decorating and celebrating Christmas the way I always do. All these years I have put myself under so much pressure cleaning, cooking, carol singing, decorating and at most importantly shopping and more shopping. I have never had a moments free time, all these years in the run up to Christmas. I am always so exhausted and tired by the time the season comes to an end.. This could be true of many of you too.<br />
This year I have consciously decided to rest, I have had enough on my mind this year and I need a break physically, mentally and emotionally.<br />
I find myself so relaxed and calm. I am not running from one thing to another as I usually do.<br />
No bending backwards to please anyone, I have made my intentions clear to everyone that I am doing nothing that is going to tax me further.<br />
I don't have to shop Hurrah! I really don't have to shop so much this season as I have let people know that there won't be gifts either. This has taken a huge burden off my shoulders Deciding what gift to give each one is stressful in itself. With this off my back I am relaxing and enjoying the real spirit of the season.<br />
For once I am attending concerts and having fun instead of practicing and singing the way we usually do. I still do a bit, but its good to hear others sing, there is no stress involved.<br />
I am not at my baking post, baking truck loads of stuff for the whole city, now that is really wonderful.. I still do miss the smells of Christmas around our home..<br />
The decorations have stayed in the boxes and there is less clutter to handle. Life is simple and beautiful without having to haul Christmas trees around. Well my dog loves the space.<br />
I know the kids aren't quite happy ... but I need the break - emotionally and physically.<br />
It is heaven living without the stress.. I take one day at a time and enjoy myself. I savor each moment and make the best of it.<br />
I think, I will opt for a life without stress, if I can handle the guilt of the sad looking faces around me this year.<br />
I will however, spring a huge surprise to make up for the lack of gifts and good cheer.. Whatever said and done, it is the joy of the season that adds meaning to life.. I can bring joy without having to stress myself out-<br />
A lesson I have learned this season. I hope you can take something from this.. sometimes life is beautiful without the drama and the festivities.<br />
Take the stress out of this season. Let your hair down, so to speak and have some fun.<br />
<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
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Everyone who is alive may not be exactly facing life. To face life <b>you need to stand up boldly and face the adversities and challenges </b>that face you everyday. The pain that life brings is one of the greatest fear that people would love to avoid. What if I am hurt? So what?<br />
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Where you not hurt when you started to ride your bicycle or when you learned to take your first steps?<br />
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Do you like pain? I do not like pain. However, I personally deal with it in different ways.<br />
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<b> How I Deal With Pain ?</b><br />
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Oftentimes I refuse to acknowledge it.<br />
I go about my business as if it did not exist.<br />
I give it no credit for the things it does to my life, instead I focus on what I can do to make my life better despite the pain.<br />
I credit myself with success when I can achieve what I want to despite the pain, be it physical or mental.<br />
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I wanted to share with you a story of pain. (This is my creative piece there may be flaws in it but this is just an illustration)<br />
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A sculptor once found a huge rock on one of his long walks. He kicked it and left pain cruising through his leg. He gave the rock a second look, he was interested in what he saw. He saw in it the most beautiful woman he had ever laid eyes on. He chipped away at the rock. He was at it day and night and wouldn't let go until he found her.<br />
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The rock was in pain, terrible pain, more pain than when it was kicked at.<br />
It thought that it had lost its form and beauty and had nothing of value in it anymore. It was depressed. (if any rock could get depressed)<br />
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It got to a point where it did not care what happened to it anymore. It resigned itself to its fate until a man came along and adoringly touched it. He looked with admiration at the rock like none had ever seen it before.<br />
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The rock was pleasantly surprised.<br />
Then they were groups of people who came to see it. There were cameras all around it. Lights exploded in its face. There were million bidding to buy it, but the sculptor would never part with it. He was madly in love with his creation.<br />
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The pain it had endured had made the ordinary rock become a thing of artistic value and intrinsic beauty.<br />
The chisel and the hammer had now become its allies.<br />
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<li>Pain often brings out the best in us.</li>
<li>Of course, no one likes pain, we all want to avoid it.</li>
<li>Avoiding pain does not change anything about us.</li>
<li>Acknowledging pain and facing life causes us to become better people. </li>
<li>To acknowledge pain one need not wail and mourn. You know it is there, so focus on what makes you hurt less and achieve more.</li>
<li>Life is ridden with difficulties, you cannot run away from pain each time, you might end up running away from life. </li>
<li>Stand up and face life today!</li>
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<br /><div class="blogger-post-footer">Self improvement is a step forward, though it disturbs your sense of security it helps you find higher levels of achievement.
.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-73472932705126213652012-10-11T18:15:00.000+05:302013-12-10T20:38:04.835+05:30Make time for yourself<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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It is good to drive yourself to achieve what you want. However, when you arrive there and find that you really don’t know if that is what you want you may end up feeling that you have wasted a big chunk of your life.<br />
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Make time for yourself. Take time to know who you are and what is it that you really want. Maybe you should forget the ‘what you want’ for now, focus on the ‘who you are’.<br />
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If you don’t know who you are or what is the purpose of your life? You are a like a ship without a rudder - directionless and living each day as it happens.<br />
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Take time today to figure out what makes you tick. Make time to understand what keeps your going, what is that which brings you happiness, what are those things that make your life more meaningful?<br />
It does take introspection to get to the root of these questions. You need to be willing to accept that you are not perfect and it would mean time for self-improvement.<br />
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It takes time, effort and some courage to find out that you aren't perfect after all - but who is?<br />
Making time means that you take a slice out of your day and invest it in your happiness. This is like saving for your future. You need to forego some pleasure today - perhaps it is eating out and accept some pain like cooking your own meal. Then the money you save could be invested to take care of your future. It may serve you when there is an emergency, or even help you get that beautiful something that you have always dreamed about. <br />
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While I surfed the internet a couple of days ago, I read what a young woman had written - She basically said that life is all about the pleasures of the now. She vehemently argued that one should not deny themselves of any pleasure, life is all about having fun. Well, that is her point of view, she will grow out of it someday when she realizes that she is bankrupt, broken and lost. I don’t wish it on her, but that is where such reckless living leads to.<br />
Take time to consider if you morals and values are those that you would like your children to have, or would they be what you would like to be associated with your name five years hence. <br />
When our values / morals conflict with what we have always accepted as our standards, there can be no peace within. You life will become the biggest war zone there is. <br />
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If the happiness that you are after, is momentary and fleeting your life will be one long journey of wanting to satisfy your need to be happy. This would not be very further from the pleasure which a person addicted to drugs or alcohol seeks, living from one high to another until he finds himself in a place of no return.<br />
Take time to make the best of what you have, to live in harmony - first within yourself and then with the people around you. <br />
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Take time to enjoy what you have now and ensure that what you enjoy now will last for a lifetime. This is a smart investment for life. <br />
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What are the things that are most valuable to you - Is it your family, your spouse, your career, your soul, your health, your financial well being? Figure out and start working towards it.<br />
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Consider the time you spend today working on making what you have now last a lifetime as <b><i>an investment for life</i></b>. Go on <i style="font-weight: bold;">make time for yourself </i>and let it enrich your life<br />
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.Mindspacearena</div>Sofshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15651656999816150802noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1788061795483471788.post-60301034169691989962012-09-11T09:35:00.000+05:302013-12-10T20:41:41.079+05:30Thoughts on Desire<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right; margin-left: 1em; text-align: right;"><tbody>
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As humans we often desire something. We long for it, maybe even yearn for it and pin our happiness to it.. Is it worth it? I would say not. During a long drive through the quiet countryside I felt this question rise up repeatedly into my thoughts. Somehow my answer to it all the time was a clear 'No'. Maybe, because I believe that happiness is to be found within not without, it should not be tied to things, people and circumstances. If it did, our happiness would depend on if's and but's - that would be one hell of a emotional uncertainty. We would never be in control over our emotions or our lives. <br />
Leave the uncertainty aside, you will not even have half a chance of living your life - this present moment that you have. A few months ago a friend of mine passed on, she had great dreams and expectations, but then life didn't wait for her. Every desire of hers was a unfinished monument, the greatness of which or the worth of which may never be known. Live your moment, enjoy the life that you have today, tomorrow will take care of itself.<br />
Waiting for the if's and but's to make you happy could mean that you are letting the life that you have slip away from your hands without you really noticing it. Time is the only thing we as humans have.. but it is only the now that we have for sure. Letting your now pass you by as you search for the holy grail you may lead to a sad existence.<br />
I do not mean that we should not have desires, but our desires for success or wealth or whatever they may be should not be the end of our life. Wealth, success etc,. only serve a purpose - they are a means to the end - self-realization or self actualization. These desires should only serve to highten our happiness.. not kill the life we have now. <br />
A great Tamil (One of India's languages) poet would say of desires in Tirukural 370<br />
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Aaraa iyarkai avaaneeppin annilaiye<br />
Peraa iyarkai tharum<br />
Roughly translated it would mean.............<br />
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The nature of human desire is to be never fulfilled</div>
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But, the one who renounces desires is eternally fulfilled. <br />
Easily said than done you say.. but it is easy once you learn to do it.. I used to be greatly attached to money, possessions etc... now I couldn't care less. <br />
I place my value on people not on things anymore. Even this is proving to be a painful attachment... The loss of loved ones in the recent past has robbed me of all my desire to write, to enjoy the things I have so loved, it has been difficult to even be myself. I need to learn to let go.. of all desires .. even to be with the ones I love most. It is hard... but I am sure I can master it.. soon enough. <br />
Thirukural 364 says<br />
Purity consists in divesting oneself of all desires,</div>
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Which comes from the relentless pursuit of Truth.<br />
Should we really hanker after things? Is not inner peace more valuable?<br />
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